Are we supposed to be healthy?

I suppose you expect an Acupuncturist to say: Yes, of course. It is the most important thing in life. And you are kind of correct on that. Even our grandparents used to say: “health above all”.

But are we really supposed to be healthy people?
I don’t think so, not in that sense. And here is why..

Before that, I need to make a confession. Recently, during one of my treatments, a client said to me: “I just want to feel better”. My response? I laughed. Yes, I laughed. How unprofessional a response that was (I thought instantly), but why did I laugh?

For me, it was simply an incredible comedic response to reality. Of course, they want to feel better; that is what all of us wish for. It is so obvious that it triggered a guttural laugh in me.

My laugh was short, with a slight bitter after taste.

Bitter, because the fact is that we see our health as a function, as a necessity, and often as a nuisance to our everyday life. Whether we build our identity around being the healthy person, or the person who has no time for themselves, in both cases we treat it separately from ourselves.

Not to romanticise illness, but the most overlooked function of disease is to bring us back to the present moment. It is so we are forced to reconsider our priorities and the way we live our lives. It is often a warning, a wake-up call. Which, when ignored, turns into bigger and bigger red flags, leading to the hospital.

Just to be clear, I am not saying all injuries, accidents, and developmental disorders are a “message” or a lesson. But however we look at the way they form our experience will determine the quality of life we develop over the years.

What I am trying to touch upon is that participation in whatever life presents to us is the best response. When we are sick, we are sick. Through sickness and hardship, we grow, reflect and thrive. 

We don’t need to idolise hardship, but looking away and ignoring the reality will only halt our healing journey.

On what it means to be healthy. It is not about how many workouts we do in a week, or how well we eat. It is about how we participate in life in any and all given moments.

Eating well and meditating daily can bring us closer to a fulfilled (healthy) life, or it can drag us further away from it if it becomes a passive, stale aspect of our personality.

We can’t be healthy. The only thing constant (physically speaking) is death. What we can do is to participate in our ever-changing health. That is homeostasis. Maintaining an internal (mind) and external (body) environment in which we can survive and thrive. Constantly.

Am I an Acupuncturist because I have got a degree and insurance? Or is it because I am actively applying this healing art, supporting a multitude of people weekly? Or because I can make everyone’s pain disappear (which I cannot), as unfortunately am not (yet :D )perfect.

I do not think it would be accurate to call myself an Acupuncturist if I was not participating in the life of others in that capacity. 

I hope you find this article somewhat helpful. I just wanted to share some of my current musings. :)

And I promise I will try not to laugh next time..

 If you are waking up at 3 AM with an overly active brain—you are not crazy. In fact, I am seeing a huge increase in insomnia cases in the clinic right now. A few weeks ago, I attended a talk by my Daoist teacher, Anita, and she explained exactly why this is happening: Welcome to the Yang Fire Spring.

(Note: Because so many people are struggling with this, I am putting together a local 2.5-hour workshop to physically practice grounding these energies together—you can [Click here to join the waitlist].)

This will be a lengthy read, but I highly advise you to save this document on your phone for whenever you feel like you are 'losing your mind' this year.

Let's talk about the 2026/27 first
Anita depicted a beautiful picture in which the energetic, fiery nature of the Horse (representing the Earthly branch of Chinese Astrology) is being further enhanced and supported by the Yang Fire energies (of the Heavenly Stems), leading to very powerful dynamics this year. Practically speaking, this is a year for great advancements fuelled by those double Yang (vibrant) energies, which I am sure you have encountered already. As we experience more explosiveness (globally and locally), it becomes imperative to prevent mental restlessness by giving more value (and engagement) to Humility and Moderation.

Spring Truths
On the other hand, spring is an exceptionally vitalising, yet chaotic time of the year. As we come out of hibernation, most of us are faced with the truth, which is that we have not rested enough over winter, and now we must face up to the contrasting liveliness of Spring. Irritability, headaches, insomnia and physical tightness, as well as sinus issues (due to the pollen) are prime examples of health-related dis-harmonies around this time of the year.

As these are further exacerbated by the energetics of the Yang Fire Horse, we need to bring extra caution to our balance between activity and rest. It is always advised to increase physical activity (especially stretching) and decluttering in Spring. Some examples are eating more detoxifying (seasonal) fruits or by doing a big house clean. We must remember to always relax back into our body as we are approaching the evenings.

Creative vs Distracting forces  
This year is prime for distraction. (Sorry ADHD folks). Time flows more quickly, and as soon as we put our finger on some extra bit of energy, we feel driven to use it right up. We must be really vigilant with burnout! Managing our energy and mental activity should be in our prime focus for the year.

On the bright side, the extra vibrancy will be great help for all creative projects, including self-expression. Long-held plans can come to fruition this year – as long as we keep a cool head. The double Yang is excellent for fuelling our plans and current interests.

Sleep and Burnout 
This Spring is especially tricky for people who have an unanchored nervous system. The fiery energies of the year bring up more energy (qi) to the head, which is the very opposite of what you need in order to have a good night’s sleep. This also means that we are likely to push more, putting us in the danger zone of (further) burnout. It does not mean we have to work less, but focused, slow-paced, attention-rich work, balanced out by plenty of rest and quiet time will get us much closer to our goals and dreams.

Joy and Connection
When these Fiery energies are harmonised (within you), they bring joy, exploration, and deep connection to your life. It is an excellent time to meet new people or deepen already existing relationships of all sorts.
The caveat: when you feel things bubbling up (in your mind), take a deep breath so you can prevent highly emotional and reactive outbursts. Which are more likely to happen this year, if mindfulness is replaced by mindlessness :)

Authenticity and Purification
You might also find that this year will bring a lot of change in terms of habits and connections that no longer support you. Fire has a purifying quality. It helps to burn away (internal and interpersonal) attachments, which keep us away from living honestly, true to our needs. Patience is a beautiful virtue, which infused with calm level-headedness, will prove to be an incredible force in your (social) life and personal development. These will help a lot with being misunderstood, so you can clearly express your heart’s desire.

The light of the Yang Fire year can illuminate suppressed things within us. Allowing those to come to surface can be uncomfortable, and difficult to acknowledge. Always remember that kindness and patience can balance out the challenges of honesty. Decluttering your personality (attachments to identity) and your home, phone, etc. will also help to keep your mind focused on your goals.

One Direction and Moderation
Probably the most important advice for the year... When we encounter a beautiful field of flowers, we might feel the urge to pick some. However, if we let ourselves become greedy, we might spend all of our time and energy on choosing the best flowers. Picking the daffodils is not enough anymore, so we hop onto the bluebells, the tulips and so on... devastating the environment and our inner landscape (of craving).
We need to decide on a select few things this year that we want to pour our attention and energy into. This will keep us from experiencing too much distraction. Moderation will help to bring the soaring fire back down, deep within us. Containing and mindfully using the vibrant energies of the year will prove to be crucial for us all. 

I can definitely say that is the case for me already and it's only March!

Finding Flow through Humility
It is incredibly regulating to realise that we cannot nor should not control our environment 24/7. It takes humility to recognise how little power we have around formulating the world (and people) around us. This recognition can bring you peace and lead you back to your agency. The agency around how we react to life.

Once we relinquish (even a little) control over life, we can finally find and engage in the flow that is already present around us. Life is self-governing. Our body does not need us to think about taking a breath. Just as the tree outside does not need us to water it. Flow is in the humility of being with the present moment. Tuning into the “natural organising” principles allows us to do the right amount of action at the right time (Wu Wei). However, this requires mental stability, stillness and presence.

(Prefer to practice this in person? [Click here to join the waitlist] for my upcoming 2.5-hour Spring Reset Workshop).

How do we settle mental agitation?
All you need to do is go back to the very basics of life. Rest (the mind) and Move (the body). 
"Just like the river flows under no duress, the solution is found in the motion of water."

When you allow your body to move and express itself, that motion of change will help to clear out stagnant habits, aches, and tensions. As we “bring the mind home”, the fluids of your awareness can wash over the blockages of your system.

Mindful movement is a fundamental for good health. Hence why I am a big advocate for Tai chi. For me it is the absolute tool in which we can harmonise the body and mind in a way that brings forth change that ripples into our whole life. Including the way we respond to our environment.

Settling the mind  
Once we have irrigated the ditches (physical and energetical stagnation/tension in the body), it becomes easier to settle the mind. “Bringing the mind home” is a simple practice of collecting your mental powers (thinking, planning, responding, doing) and bringing them back in, closer to your core. Allowing them to sink back into the body in this present moment. Any moment is a perfect opportunity to do this. Of course that does not mean it is easy to achieve. Hence why movement is such a beneficial tool to prepare the body for meditative practice and life!

Finding peace and deep calm
If you are new to meditation, it might sound logical, yet feel totally irrelevant to talk about calm and peace in practice. When we begin, we barely have the capacity to notice as we are thinking. Since it is our baseline to always be in thought (process). Constantly reacting to the world.

Start here – regardless if you are a seasoned practitioner or a total newbie

1. Prepare a comfortable seated position (can be on a bench in a park).
2. If there are distracting movements and noises around, put on some ambient music and close your eyes.
3. Allow your awareness to gently drop to the contact points between your body and the bench/floor. Settle your mind within your physical shape. Curiously exploring how the weight of your body feels on top of an external surface.
4. Then simply observe your mind, notice how thoughts come and go. How you start telling one story before making plans for later on.
5. In the beginning it can be useful to allow your mind to race a few minutes. After which see if you can slow down a bit. Perhaps taking a few breaths and bringing your awareness back to your body if the mind goes too wild.
6. Now that the preparations are sufficiently done, I invite you to become curious about space. The space between your thoughts. The sky beyond the floating clouds. To find this, you don't need to force your mind to stop. Instead, just notice the very end of your exhale. There is a tiny, natural pause before your body decides to breathe in again. That millisecond of physical rest is your space. You need not to control the breath, simply observe it.
7. As you notice that tiny pause at the bottom of the breath, give a slight preference toward it. Don't cling to it or try to hold your breath; simply appreciate that half a second of total stillness for existing. As you continue, your nervous system will realise this space is safe, and those milliseconds of rest will naturally start to expand.
8. Allow your mind to explore that natural pause. When it becomes sustainable to rest there without forcing it, drop a kind question into the background: What is the flavour of this quiet space?
9. You might start noticing that it feels peaceful, nourishing, or like a heavy weight has been put down. See if you can rest in that physical feeling of relief for just a few minutes. As you continue with your practice, you can notice how this sensation permeates into the whole breath, beyond that moment of pause.
10. When you feel ready, simply let go of any mental effort. Enjoy the fruits of the practice and bring those positive feelings -which you just generated- with you for the rest of your day.

Bringing peace to our sleep
As you noticed, there is a huge emphasis on finding peace and rest in the mind. This is even more important when we struggle with sleep. We have a beautiful opportunity of bringing these qualities into our sleep, to ensure a deep restorative sleep. The tool itself is not that important, the quality is even more so.

Before your sleepy time:

1. Allow the mind to generate a sense of peace and stillness.
2. Rest your mind solely on this feeling, or on a single point within the body, whilst abiding in this beautiful experience.
3. Slowly go to your bed whilst gently maintaining the “flavour” of peace in your system. Allow this to lull you to sleep.

What next?
Knowing these tools conceptually is one thing, but training your nervous system to physically use them is another. I am currently putting together a 2.5-hour Spring Reset Workshop: Grounding the Yang Fire, where we will drink the seasonal herbs, move the body, and physically practice grounding this Fire together.
I haven't set a date yet, as I want to gauge interest first. If you would like to come and physically practice 'irrigating the ditches' with me, please click the link below to drop your name on the waitlist. If there is enough interest, I will finalize a date and send you the official invite!

Yes, I'm interested in the Spring Reset Workshop!

We are never alone truly.
We are born from two (biological mother and father), brought up by at least one if not half a village.
People do not choose solitude to thrive in life. It is their last choice for survival when they have been mistreated one too many times.

Or they choose it for the purpose of transformation. A form of challenge for spiritual cultivation.
 
Touch is medicine

Therapeutic touch is consensual structure in which the client and the therapist give each other space so the therapeutic qualities of change can emerge.
It is chosen and developed as a container, in which one can allow themselves to be exposed. To give up their thriving and fighting against discomfort.

True rest requires safety.

Just like yin and yang are complimentary, one needs a safe environment in which they can free up their defences (muscles and nervous system for an armour).
A good massage or Acupuncture treatment is based on non-verbal communication. Although the practitioner may seem to be in a place of power, it is their priority and responsibility to keep listening to their clients. Both via touch, sight and hearing.
A good session is like a non-stop dialogue in which the therapist gives just the right amount of stimuli, which allows the person lying down to fully relax. To dissolve into the new structure that is being co-created.
Of course this can look in many different ways. Yet, a firm and steady hand can provide so much relief.

Rest is so vital. Especially so today, when our society is geared towards productivity via burnout.
In a time when we feel challenged, burnt out or more sensitive than ever, therapeutic touch can make a world of difference. It can be a puddle of safety in the ocean of turbulence.

As we are approaching the energetic year of the Yang Fire Horse, it becomes even more important to tune into that quality of rest that our being craves so much.
We can find this in many different forms, in poetry, Tai chi, nature walks or massages.

A good thought to keep in mind, is that rest also requires effort. It is by far not the same as zoning out whilst watching digital content.
Rest is best described in the meditative world as “calm abiding”. A state where we are present yet simply abiding in peace. In the lake of consciousness undisturbed by thoughts and feelings.

I strongly advise you to put time aside for rest regularly. Whether it’s in meditation or during an acupuncture session, frequent ‘abiding’ makes a world of difference. It leads to deeper and longer baseline of a calm, safe, confident sense of self.

If you need some support with Rest in your life, do not hesitate to reach out to me or the rest of the fabulous WNT team.
 
PS: Perhaps Confidence is something you wish to work on this year? Please read my other article on Starting the year right: with positive emotion and community. 
 

Hi everyone,
Hope you all had a lovely festive period!
I am back in London. Recharged with inspiration and ready for 2026.

So let's start the year with something positive :)Yesterday I had the pleasure of attending a talk by Maitreyabandhu (a Buddhist scholar and practitioner), who shared many lifetimes' worth of wisdom around positive emotion.

Why is it so important?I think we can all agree that life is often challenging.
Yet it is also immensely beautiful.

Depending on the state of our mind, our experience can be of beauty or of suffering.
Positive emotions allow us to have a deeper capacity to stay present, appreciate and act creatively in our everyday life.

What sort of positive emotions are we talking about?Maitreyabandhu believes that our generation has been gradually losing its natural access to positive emotion.

This shows up as:
- a disconnection from nature, including our physical body
- a loss of community. the lack of feeling seen, loved and appreciated
- a missing cosmic connection. The experience of being part of something much larger, like the universe, humanity or the divine
Happiness, appreciation, and love, amongst others, are extremely potent positive emotions, yet they are not so readily available for someone living a busy metropolitan lifestyle.

Why do people struggle with positive emotion?There is a genetic predisposition to prioritise any sense of danger for the sake of survival. Unfortunately, this strategy has become maladaptive with our current lifestyle. As most of us are living up in our heads, overflooded with information. Boosted by a hyperactive nervous system, which is also overfilled with the energy of a multitude of (negative) emotions residing in the body.

The most commonly regarded positive emotions are not something we can easily (if at all) generate when we are isolated, overly cerebral or have no time to simply be.
Of course, there are countless practices out there which can be utilised in order to generate loving kindness or compassion, yet they fall short when we do not have genuine connections in our lives.
Connection to others and to ourselves.

What is the solution?
The Buddhist answer is simple:
- Live a slow life
- Stay deeply embodied and present
- Live in a community with individuals who share the same values as you

Now, that is beautiful, but this might not be available to you if you are:
- not a person of faith or interested in Buddhism
- do not know how to connect with such individuals
- have a full-time job and other responsibilities
- already living at your capacity

Perhaps you have a really supportive group of friends. Some deeply loving family members. Potentially a job that allows you to spend more time on your own. Yet there is something still missing.

Here is an alternative solution:

Whilst this is not a better solution than actually walking on the (Buddhist) path of dedication itself. It is also not exclusive of that.
What I am presenting to you today can be an excellent (and free!) alternative or addition to your preexisting journey towards a better, deeper, loving life.

Here is what you get:

Imagine a place where you can naturally unfold all the shapes, identities and habits that keep you away from experiencing joy and love as your everyday baseline.

A community where, instead of ‘working on yourself’, you are actually having fun with like-minded people.
Where goofing around allows you to truly be yourself as you are
right now.

A magic toolbox, stuffed with all the goodies that lead you to positive emotion.

A completely practical approach. Where you can finally get out of your head, down into your body. Where pen and paper become your friend. Where your phone actually brings you slow, nourishing content, instead of a wired nervous system.

In this community, we only have three laws to abide by:
1. Have fun
2. Be kind,
3. Keep the momentum

The best part?

It’s all free!

All it costs you is to bring a little bit of passion with a little bit of effort. 
So you can be present with other individuals who pretty much want the same things as you do.

Living a life free of Shame and full of confidence so you can be as Free as a bird.

What am I really talking about?

What ‘it’ is is an Online Community, run on a platform (Skool), which is naturally geared towards interactions, thus building a community.
With access to a free Academy designed to help you become the most Confident version of you that you can be.

What is the catch?

The catch is that I cannot do it without you. I cannot build and maintain a community without people who prioritise their own well-being, so they can make the most of their lives, whilst also being truly helpful to those around them.

So what I am asking you is to come, join us, and give each other a chance to build a community where we can experience what Maitriyabadhu talked about:

An embodied community filled with love and belonging.

What this is not:

It is not a miracle cure. It does not substitute in person friendships and connections.
It doesn’t make all the wars stop around the world.
But it is a start towards living a life more connected and deeply loving.

It is also not complete. 
I am currently putting together the materials for the academy, which are going to be quite extensive -and deeply transformational- as we head towards summer.

The amazing thing is, is that the more you interact in the community, the more you can influence the material I am putting out there.

It will be personalised to the needs of the group. So the "funding members" have an excellent opportunity to shape the material.

How can you join?

You can click on the button below, which will take you to the Skool website. 

The community is currently called the Beyond Shame Academy.

I am putting a little extra focus on getting people from a state of Shame to a sense of Confidence. However, it will be a truly holistic experience. Perhaps with some Tai chi material in there, in the future. :)

It will ask you to create a free account. Where you can be yourself. Otherwise, you are welcome to take up an alias if you would rather contribute without your real identity.

Because you matter!I hope to see many of you there!
If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to drop me an email or to ask me in person.
Have a wonderful start to the year!
Compassionately,
Miha, the Acupuncturist 

Hi everyone,
Here I make a return again with these articles before the quiet period of Winter. This holiday season is always a time that I find deeply inspirational. But if I am honest, Autumn is a season that I often struggle with.
So many ghosts (from the past) come to visit, that it can be truly overwhelming. But there is hope!
Today I wish to talk about how we can find hope both by the recognition of our human condition and by the grace of needles. :)

The Channel of a Bright Future

In Chinese Medicine, we often refer to the meridians (channels) as a fixed set of tools with equal importance within our toolbox. Yet they are much more than that.

Channels are energetically living entities within us that allow our mind and body to connect to one another, and everything else beyond our understanding (beyond the ‘I’). 

They also have a sort of hierarchy which is based on time and space.

The Eight Extraordinary Meridians are the ones formed first, and those which lie deepest to our core.

One of these channels is called Yang Wei Mai (Yang linking vessel). It brings a fascinating purpose within our development. Its function is related to how we perceive the future based on our experiences of the past.

What is even more interesting is that it has a message. Which is, if we focus our efforts in the right places, life can be bright, and full of optimism for the future.

It organises all Yang within the body with a special notion to our protective energies (Wei qi).

I like to refer to these as troops within the body and the mind. When we are mentally stable and physically healthy, these troops wait at the border (where pathogens may enter), waiting to be dispatched. They also retire inward towards the evening, so they can rest.

What happens when we allow chaos to reign our troops against our best wishes?

When we experience something physically or mentally traumatic (especially in early childhood), these troops can get stuck with very old orders, such as ‘be vigilant, as an attack is incoming any minute’.

Thus, the mind never rests. It creates unnecessary tension internally (which, over time, can translate into autoimmune conditions) and may also create illusory scenarios to which the troops are dispatched.

Worry and control: A common example of this is worrying about a possible future scenario. This worry often creates conflict not just in our minds but also between us and others. Pre-mediating a fight that is solely based on our own fears. These heavy feelings give birth to a desperate need for control. Which leads to further and further discontent and aggression.
Another example of what we may call the “Future disease”  is the inability for someone to take steps towards (a brighter) future. We can get so stuck in our view of life, like we have already ‘decided’ how it is going to play out.

Passivity and victim-hood: People with such personality traits often take a passive stand in life, in which things keeps happening ‘to them’. This sort of victim mentality creates an illusion of a ‘set future’ which may feel comforting for those who have gone through traumatic experiences.
Yet it is the anchor which prevents people from taking agency in their lives by finding the slightest bit of momentum, which could result in a mountain of change in the long run.

Going back to the troop analogy, when our General (the Liver) and the Empress (Heart) have lost their vision and clarity, these troops scatter or accumulate in different places. Often resulting in fighting themselves (autoimmune and inflammatory conditions). 

How can we turn things around for the better?

One way to counteract this chaotic state is to ascertain our priorities in the given moment.

Yang Wei Mai is also a channel associated with purpose. As it has the ability to ascertain where our troops are needed the most. Thus, setting priorities becomes an essential aspect of anchoring, centring and focusing the mind in the prospect of supporting the body in moving out of a state of dis-ease.

Pro tip: when you find yourself spiralling downwards, remember that spiralling already has given you a momentum. You are already doing, it's just not the kind of doing that will lift you up. All you need is a little nudge to change the direction. Upward we go when we bring to mind our priorities (or purpose in life) and start acting on it. It does not have to be a massive leap. It can be enough to decide to go out and get a breath of fresh air. Change brings freshness. In that momentum we can brainstorm new ideas. As long as we keep going, there is hope for a brighter tomorrow. 

Realistically speaking, making the right decision can change your experience (of the present moment) in a split second. How can you make your next hour of life marginally more pleasant?

In Acupuncture we have an amazing opportunity to directly connect with this deep aspect of our psychosomatic being, which can bring forth purpose, optimism and excitement for the future.
When we activate the Yang Wei Mai, we simply bring it into a more open state. We vibrate the channel so it comes alive to be more resonant with our priorities.

Of course, it is not magic. Change requires an immense amount of honesty. To really see ourselves (with the help of others) as clearly as possible. To see when we have the opportunity to act on our priorities, and to kindly make the decision which brings us onto an upward cycle. 
We all deserve to live out our lives in a way that brings us closer and closer to our purpose.

What are your priorities for the week?

Curious to set priorities that will support you through this festive season?
Come and see me for an acupuncture treatment.
Simply drop an email with your availability if interested.
I am also offering -reduced rate- Online sessions where we can dive deeper into your beliefs and systems, which are (hopefully) supporting you all year around.

In the previous 2 articles we have explored how our mind shapes our reality. We also looked at how our actions (training) can shape our mind and body.

Going a bit deeper into the psyche, I wanted to talk about the nature of Responsibility and how the patterns of our mind lead to goodwill (grace) or ill-will (shame).

Feeling overwhelmed?

I came from struggle. Not that I had any physical needs unmet. I definitely did not come from wealth, however I always had shelter and plenty of food. (At least until my uni days. :D )

However, mental struggle was my normality.

I felt overwhelmed on a daily basis. Life, or rather the people around me were too much to handle.

So I developed an avoidant relationship with responsibility.

Not to say that I was not a caring and kind child. I think those qualities have been with me and strengthened by my family and teachers over the years.

Yet, due to the overwhelm, I tried to avoid taking any additional responsibility. To the extent of having difficulty with making decisions even about what I want to eat. Indecision.

Now everyone's story is slightly different, however I see a lot of overwhelm and avoidance in my clinical practice.
We will come back to this shortly..

On Shame..

When someone feels overwhelmed, their reality becomes an unsafe environment for them. 
In such situations the brain is forced to 'think their way out' of this non-safety. It is looking for an escape route.

This seeking, or rather avoiding usually leads us down the path of shame and guilt. Being brought up in a very critical and unkind environment, naturally enhances our mental story of not being enough.

Those shameful internalised voices are further strengthened by the constant overwhelm, where we rationalize our inability of handling our 'unsafe' environment as shameful.

Often we also develop a deep desire to help those suffering around us. However as someone incapable of fulfilling their own needs, we often feel guilty for not being able to help others.

Thus we naturally start to associate our self-worth with how we feel in relation to other people.

This is crucial to understand. Our feelings have an effect on our worldview. Our nervous system is wired in a way to protect us, even if that results in us feeling shameful on a daily basis.

Children are very sensitive to suffering. And they do not have the logical understanding that it is not their responsibility to help adult figures. So the guilt deepens.

Naturally a child cannot control their environment. However as an adult, we definitely have the power to make (even if the tiniest) changes in our life.
Please keep reading on...

So how does shame and guilt affect us?

Think of yourself like your phone battery. When you go on about your day, feeling okay, your battery will slowly drain but it probably still be around a comfortable 30% when you retire to bed.

Now think of running apps on your phone. Editing videos, playing games, running an antivirus program whilst also watching a movie.

The more app you run on your phone concurrently, the quicker it will drain the battery.

Emotions and mental rumination do the same to us humans.

When we feel unsafe in our environment, the mind automatically keeps running an (antivirus) app to scan for danger around us.

Whenever a threat is found, our mind will start (Google) searching for all the possible reasons of how it might hurt us.

Then our brain has to come up with a coping mechanism. 
So the brain runs another app for distractions (Netflix or social media) or even a special app for dissociation (avoidance of sensations and emotions). 

All of these further and further drain our energy, and feed into our mental story of 'I cannot do anything about it'. A.k.a, Mental despair.

Naturally when one is overwhelmed and also exhausted, they will find ways to avoid further responsibility. Including looking after themselves.

Goodwill or ill-will?

I had a mini-breakthrough after listening to one of Ajahn Brahm's (Buddhist monk) talk on ill-will and compassion.

It is so obvious, yet easy to miss:
Entertaining shameful thoughts is an act of ill-will.

It is literally an activity which results in our own direct suffering, or the indirect hurt we cause to other people around us.

It is as simple as that. We must find omni-directional kindness within ourselves, in order to reduce the suffering (us and them).

Grace is defined as courteous good will.

Some Christian traditions define it as unmerited favour, kindness, and mercy. 

In Buddhism, a close equivalent may be compassion. The resolve to connect and accept one that may or may not be favourable to us.

In my opinion, regardless if you are a person of faith or not, Grace or compassion is the way for us to resolve those deeply engrained patterns of ill-will.

Thus, it is our primary responsibility to look after ourselves. As that is the only way we can truly care for others.

How can we get there?

Faith has been an options for thousands of years.
Today you also have a choice to seek help from others to strengthen your muscles of compassion.
Looking to feel better in your body?

Please reach out by email to enquire about your first Holistic Coaching session!

Available both in person and online.

How can Tai chi help to build resilience and confidence?
 
As a therapist of the Eastern arts, I have come across many modalities that help people grow, become more confident, resilient and overall content with their life.

I am generally fascinated by both psychology, medicine and eastern philosophy. Yet, what I would call the most powerful tool in my toolbox would -hands down- be Tai chi.
 
It is a martial art that goes way beyond the martial and directly creates a reflective experience where healthy resilience naturally grows.
 
Resilience is the fruit of effort. The work resulting in mental, physical and emotional strength and pliability, leading to self-confidence.
 
One of the fundamental aspects of Tai chi is the engagement of the mind within the body.
 
So how does it help us build resilience?
 
When you practice the art, you are asked to leave all other thoughts and feelings behind. Instead, allow the mind to saturate into the flesh. This develops mindfulness of the body.
 
When you go through the practice of body opening/loosening, it requires sustained mental effort to meet your discomfort. To look compassionately and intimately towards your own limits. Maintaining awareness and acceptance. This develops mental fortitude.
 
During the standing meditations, you first of all create a structure which you must hold for a period of time. Within this structure you relax and release the muscles, thus your habitual tensions. You experience sensations and connections that you have never felt before. This creates a change in your perception and gently pulls you out of your general one-sided thinking. Opening the mind and body.
 
In both seated and standing meditation, you work on maintaining your focus in one physical/energetic location. This develops attention and one pointed focus.
 
Whilst practicing the form/moves, your brain will keep shouting and shaming you for not doing it correctly. You are forced to face your critical self and develop a new, compassionate relation with it. This develops your character, balance and coordination.
 
The constant effort to maintain awareness in the body, whilst experiencing a multitude of sensations, both pleasant and unpleasant, builds a doorway to your nervous system, which you have control over once you have developed enough awareness
 
You can choose to fight it, flee from it or simply accept it for what it is. This builds direct resilience in the nervous system.
 
You see, it is very difficult to get through life without resilience.
 
But we are so lucky to have a tool (and I am sure there are others out there as well) which builds:
 
- the strength and resilience of mind,
- the fortitude and flexibility of the body,
- the stillness and openness of the heart
 
Whilst also balancing our energetic body and the nervous system.
 
Furthermore, throughout the partner drills we also have the opportunity to work on how we relate to one another. How we respond to the touch, emotions and thoughts of others. This is a big part of developing resilience.
 
Thus, we become strong and kind towards our internal and external environments. This is true resilience.
 
Maybe now you can understand why my passion lies so deep in this art.. :)
 
Looking to build resilience into your life?
I am currently running 2 beginner friendly courses in Crystal Palace:
 
Mondays: 18:30 – 19:30
Tuesdays 18:00-19:00
 
- Small groups of around 8-10 people
- Hands on corrections
- Always welcome to ask questions
 
Investment: £12.50 per class
Location: Kin Wellbeing studio and Crystal Palace Osteopaths

Excited to try something new to change and/or grow resilience in your life?
 
Please email me at
[email protected]
Or WhatsApp me on:
07308889603
 
Looking forward to meeting many of you at class,
Miha

Continuing our series focusing on all the treatments we offer at WNT this time we are focusing on 'Other Treatments' - read on to find out about what these are and the practitioners who offer them. (And see our earlier focuses on Acupuncture and Massage)
Our interviewees here are:
Veronica Massa - Facial Therapist extraordinaire
Laura Devonshire - Reflexologist, Reiki and Sound healing practitioner
Miha Rosta - Acupuncturist and Holistic Coach (here with his holistic coaching hat on)

Coaching: From Shame to Freedom – A Holistic Journey to Healing

Shame and guilt are emotions that can quietly run our lives, but there is a way to move from shame to freedom. As a holistic therapist (Acupuncture, Massage, Tai Chi, Qigong, Coaching), I integrate ancient healing techniques with modern coaching to help you release those heavy burdens. This article will explore how holistic coaching can assist you in overcoming shame, so the pain can transform into empowerment, offering you a gentle, compassionate path to emotional freedom.

How Does Shame Affect Your Life and Well-Being?

Shame is a deeply ingrained emotion, often showing up as feelings of unworthiness or inadequacy. Whether triggered by past mistakes, societal pressures, or internalized judgment, shame can weigh us down, keeping us trapped in harmful patterns of thought and behavior.

When I began my own journey of self-compassion, I realized how much shame had been quietly shaping my life. I thought I had cleared most of the debris, but during the past year, I had to acknowledge that some of my core beliefs still carried the heavy burden of shame. Once I started addressing how I related to myself and my environment, I began to experience lightness and freedom in my own life.

How Can Online Coaching Help You Overcome and Release Shame?

One of the most effective ways to work through shame is by acknowledging and accepting it for what it is. This may sound counterintuitive, but getting closer to the discomfort is key. In coaching, we create a safe and accepting environment. Gently embracing our vulnerabilities helps us to let those shameful parts come to light. You don’t have to carry that weight forever.

Just as in Tai Chi or Qigong, where you embrace discomfort to release it, coaching helps you engage with these emotions in a safe way. Together, we identify where the stuck energy lies—those “anchors” that have held you down for years.

What Is Radical Self-Compassion, and How Can It Help Overcome Shame?

Radical compassion is an essential tool in the healing process. It involves offering complete self-acceptance (Maitri, in the Buddhist traditions) and kindness to yourself, especially to the parts of you that you may not like or feel most vulnerable. It’s about meeting your shame with curiosity, not judgment.
I used to struggle with perfectionism, which was deeply rooted in shame. I thought that if I didn’t perform perfectly, I wasn’t worthy. Through practising radical self-compassion, I began to accept those parts of me that felt ashamed. I even gave my inner critical judge a name—the ‘shamer’—to soften the relationship with it. Think of the “Shame Bell” scene from Game of Thrones. By embracing my imperfections, I was able to release unrealistic expectations and feel a deeper sense of freedom.

How Can Chinese Medicine Support Emotional Healing and Release Shame?

Chinese Medicine, with its ancient wisdom, offers an almost magical (yet widely researched) approach to addressing emotions like shame and guilt. In Chinese philosophy, emotions are connected to different organs in the body. For example, shame is often linked to an imbalance in the Liver, Heart, and Kidney energy.

By addressing specific organs and meridians, Chinese Medicine works to restore balance in the whole person—body, mind, and spirit—releasing stuck emotions that may have shaped your personality over time.

Would you like to read more about how Acupuncture and Acupressure can help with shame? [Click here to learn more about emotional healing through Chinese Medicine.]

How Can Qigong and Tai Chi Help Build Self-Confidence and Heal Shame?

Both Qigong and Tai Chi are gentle, yet appropriately challenging, forms of movement that focus on unity. These practices integrate the body and mind, leading to an increasing quality of stillness and harmony. Over time, this helps form a deeper sense of self-confidence and creates a more compassionate relationship with oneself.

Certain Qigong exercises are also immensely helpful in balancing internal organs, directly addressing emotional imbalances. I often suggest these practices in my coaching sessions to enhance the release of shame by engaging the body and breath. It’s not about becoming an expert—it’s about creating a safe space to practice compassion and acceptance while remaining open and reflective.

How Does Coaching Help Break Negative Coping Mechanisms Like Perfectionism and Avoidance?

Many of us develop maladaptive coping strategies to avoid discomfort, including shame. These strategies might include perfectionism, avoidance, addiction, or self-sabotage. Coaching provides a space where we explore these coping mechanisms, understand why they formed, and develop healthier ways of dealing with life’s challenges.

For example, one of my clients used to be avoidant in expressing themselves to their parents. This avoidance was a shield, protecting them from vulnerability. Once they understood this, they were able to develop new habits, deepen their connection with their parents, and create a sense of compassion for their own needs and emotions.

Why Is Practicing Self-Compassion Essential for Healing Shame?

Self-compassion is the foundation for healing from shame. It’s the practice of treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer to a friend or loved one. This can be difficult, especially if you’ve been your own harshest critic for a long time.

In our coaching sessions, we work to build your “muscles of compassion.” You’ll learn to soften your inner dialogue, forgive yourself for mistakes, and embrace your imperfections. This daily practice will help counteract the harsh inner critic that often fuels shame.

We’ll also explore the core beliefs and perceptions that contribute to your inner critique, helping you see the world—and yourself—with more clarity.

How Can Coaching Help You Embrace Your Authentic Self and Heal Emotionally?

Coaching is an adventure of self-discovery, not just a way to fix what’s wrong. It’s about finding healthier ways to be fully present and take up your rightful space in the world. It’s about discovering the hidden parts of yourself that shame has buried.

I often see a pattern where people feel they must hide parts of themselves because they don’t feel “good enough.” The truth is, when we fully embrace our shadow sides, they dissolve, leaving behind gems we can use to help ourselves and others.

How Does Holistic Coaching Differ from Traditional Therapy in Overcoming Shame?

Traditional therapy often focuses on talking through problems to understand the whys. Holistic coaching integrates mind, body, and spirit to help discover the what’s, that can bring about meaningful change.

In our sessions, we won’t just talk about shame. We’ll explore how it impacts your body, energy, and daily life. Practices like meditation, movement, reflective writing, and energy work will support your healing journey in a practical and empowering way.

How Can You Start Your Journey to Overcome Shame and Find Emotional Freedom?

Letting go of shame is a journey, but you don’t have to take it alone. In our holistic coaching sessions, we’ll co-create a space where you can feel safe to explore your emotions, release what no longer serves you (overcoming shame), and step into a more empowered version of yourself.

When I first began my healing journey, I didn’t realize how much support I needed. Today, as I continue working through the remnants of my shame with the help of others, I’m finding freedom in ways I never thought possible.

Ready to start Overcoming Shame and Step Into Freedom with Holistic Coaching?

If you’re ready to release shame and embrace a life of compassion, joy, and freedom, I invite you to explore coaching with me. Together, we’ll work to create a life where you feel empowered, whole, and inspired for the future.

Do you have any questions or feel ready to rumble? [Click here to contact me for more information about coaching sessions.]